True Love Waits

Many people feel that intimacy and living together before marriage are good ideas. The Word of God calls them fornication. It is a sin. God hates sin…one reason is because He loves us. He does not want to see us hurt, and He hates to see suffering…and we must suffer the consequences of our sin.

Intimate premarital relationships and cohabitation are dangerous to the future of relationships. They are not signs of commitment. They are personal "litmus tests" of compatibility. Commitment comes with love. Compatibility is based on a demonstration of someone's ability to make another person happy.  It is often a “self”-ish arrangement, with each party looking to their own personal protection and needs, seeking what the other has to “offer” in the relationship. This is not love, because love is not selfish; love does not seek its own.

There is a level of judgement that comes with intimate premarital relations and cohabitation, which often involves condemnation and damage to self-esteem to the party that may be desperately seeking to fill needs and desires within the relationship because he or she is seeking to be loved. This is not a good foundation for marriage and is a set-up for being used and abused.

Love is not rooted in the ability to please others. It is a mysterious gift of God that is not self-serving, and does not seek self-gratification. It is an extension of God’s precious love towards us and is of great value. His love is committed. His love is true. True love waits.

I share this out of God's love. 

"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, it not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."  I Corinthians 13:4-8 

Be blessed in Jesus' Name,
Angie